WHY SEX WORKERS ARE HEALERS OF MEN
As an intimacy specialist, I have met countless men who struggle to put themselves out there. They desire and long to meet "their" person who they can share a loving and enjoyable life with, but fear stops them from trying. Many of them see sex workers to get their intimacy needs met in a safe space where they don't have to fear rejection or ridicule, or "rise" under the pressure to satisfy a sexual partner.
Erectile difficulties are a major concern for many of my clients. They struggle to get hard, stay hard, resist climaxing too soon, or achieve a climax at all. This drives them to purchase "dick pills" and test them religiously to get the timing just right. Still, dick pills are not always reliable for everyone and they are very expensive. They also come with their own side effects. As someone who distrusts pharmaceuticals, I worry about the amount of men I see in my practice who rely on pharmaceuticals to perform during sensual encounters.
For most men, the idea of "failing" in the erection department is terrifying. They worry that their sexual partner will think it is her fault when it really has nothing to do with her. They dread having to explain the disappointing reaction of their cocks to the stimulation being offered. They mistakenly assume that a woman can only be satisfied sexually if she is deeply penetrated. Size is also often a concern because most dicks are smaller when they're not fully hard. With all of these thoughts and more swimming around in men's minds, it's a wonder they can perform at all.
The mental game is problematic, but physical health is even more important. The strength of men's erections are a sign of their health and vitality. The healthier a man is, the harder his cock will be in the bedroom. Studies have shown that cock issues are more often caused by poor diet and limited exercise than they are from mental blocks. Depending on dick pills is a poor replacement for a healthy lifestyle, yet it is the more common route taken. I also think that most men don't know that there are ways to get their dicks harder naturally.
Some of my clients cannot get full erections anymore due to surgeries and medications. Are they doomed to lives of loneliness because they can no longer "satisfy" a woman? No, they are not. There are a lot more important things to women than getting fucked by a hard cock. I also know from experience that men who rely on their dicks to carry every sexual experience are not the greatest lovers. Pleasing a woman takes more than a hard dick and may not even require one. Just ask a lesbian. Men put more emphasis on hard dicks than women do.
Dick fears are just one reason why many of my clients resist seeking out romantic relationships. Other reasons include a lack of confidence in themselves as men, a fear of what is expected from women in this day and age, insecurity about their bodies or disabilities, shame for seeing sex workers, and addiction to porn that has led to social anxiety and isolation. I know that these challenges can seem too giant to overcome, especially for those who are touch-starved or who doubt their worthiness. But healing is possible. Compassionate, loving sex workers help men heal from these insecurities and struggles every day.
Many of my intimacy-starved clients fear that they will be alone forever. They stay in miserable relationships or remain eternally single because they don’t believe in their own intrinsic worth. Self-doubt and insecurities prevent them from living full lives and loving fearlessly. They are missing out on the chance to experience real, passionate love.
I’ve come to understand that the comfort and desire given and shown during a sensual encounter has a healing effect on men. We all can find healing in a loving embrace. But for men, a sexual embrace is the most healing of all. Feeling desired, appreciated, seen, felt, and loved - this is the path to healing for most men. A successful sexual encounter affirms their manhood and regenerates their confidence.
Instead of resigning themselves to loveless lives, many of my clients find salvation in the arms of sex workers. Each encounter enables them to practice grooming, dressing to impress, wielding their charm, and many other techniques that are transferable to romantic relationships. Sex workers heal touch starvation and mirror back the beautiful qualities that make their clients special. In other words, we see their beauty, even and especially when they don’t see it themselves.
Because their intimacy needs are met through encounters with sex workers, these men don’t feel the need to jump into a relationship with the first woman who pays attention to them. They can look at potential partners with clearer minds and a better understanding of whether they are truly compatible or not. Being naked with a sex worker can also heal body shame, when men realize that their bodies and their erections are not barriers to intimacy. Sex workers care about connection, respect, and hygiene during a sensual experience. Intimacy is the goal - not the strength or amounts of “shots on goal.” Intimacy is the healing factor.
Sex workers offer solace, honesty, and safety for men to be vulnerable.We hear the secrets of men that no one else ever hears. We provide a healing environment where a man can be himself without fear or pressure to be perfect. When he realizes that he is beautiful and lovable just the way he is, he begins to recognize his worth. This is when romantic love begins to feel possible for him.
Over the next few weeks, I want to set some things straight for the men out there who don’t feel worthy of finding true love. I'm going to be talking about cocks, vaginas, sex, intimacy, increasing attract-ability, manhood, healing with sex workers, and mindset techniques among other things. If you or someone you know can benefit from this content, please subscribe to my newsletter.
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